Relationship & Couples Therapy Brighton & Hove
You are wondering, what happened?
You used to have so much fun together, and now it feels like you are just roommates, always getting on each other’s nerves as you have the same argument over and over. There is no time for you, no time for us. Everyone is exhausted at the end of the day, and you wonder, how did we get here?
On the surface you have the ‘everything is good’ relationship.
Others have little idea how separate and alone you both feel. Looking back, you can recall specific moments in your relationship where the distance became more intense and immense; a loss, a betrayal, ‘I felt scared, and you weren’t there for me’.
Whatever you have gone through, you want something to be different.
You are done having the hurtful arguments. You don’t want to shout and scream to be heard. You don’t want to be on the receiving end either. You don’t want to be silent or receive the silent treatment anymore.
You want to stop feeling so resentful of the person you used to love so deeply.
This isn’t how you thought it would be. You long to be back together, as it was when it first began.
How can I help?
I specialise in working with couples and individuals using the EFT (Emotionally Focused Therapy) and AF-EMDR (Attachment Focused Eye Movement Desensitisation and Reprocessing) models, to explore relationship attachments and transform distress into security and closeness.
EFT (Emotionally Focused Therapy)
EFT offers consistent and lasting positive relationship change in areas such as emotional / physical intimacy, safety and resilience. As you nurture these and other dimensions of your relationships, you will be better placed to deal with future conflicts and stress.
Research shows* 70-75% of couples undergoing EFT successfully move from distress to recovery, and around 90% show significant improvements. These benefits endure long after sessions have been completed, even for those who have experienced significant betrayals.
AF-EMDR (Attachment Focused-Eye Movement Desensitisation and Reprocessing )
AF-EMDR is a powerful therapy that helps the brain reprocess painful memories, so they no longer feel as overwhelming in the present.
With this approach, gentle processing techniques are used to help you feel resourced and steady while working through difficult past experiences. It can be especially helpful where struggles come from early relationships or times when comfort and care were missing.
I combine EFT and AF-EMDR to support both healing and growth. EFT helps you understand and shift the patterns that keep you feeling stuck or disconnected in relationships, while AF-EMDR provides a way to heal the deeper wounds underneath gently.
Together, these approaches create a safe, supportive space where you can feel more secure in yourself and build stronger, more connected relationships.
With over fifteen years’ experience as a relationship therapist, working both in the UK and for ten years in San Francisco, I bring the very best of both therapy cultures into my relationship work and offer online sessions.
Working together
I will help you understand what you need in your relationships and provide a tried and tested road map that offers consistent and lasting positive change. This will enable you to get beyond fighting, and the checking out that often results, to re-establish a healthier, happier sense of connection.
Using Emotionally Focused Therapy, we will work collaboratively to ensure safety and create emotional healing to support you even when problems feel insurmountable.
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It takes courage to reach out and admit you can’t do this on your own. Relationships are not easy; whatever Hollywood would have us believe!
I offer my clients warmth, care and sensitivity. This, allied with specialist knowledge, skills and experience, will help you both heal emotional pain and transform your relationships for the long-term.
If any of the above resonates, contact me.
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