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The Power of Being Vulnerable
We seem to live in a society that rewards a particular type of courage and bravery — for example, running into a burning building to save lives. Of course, this act is incredibly courageous. However, I would argue that there is a lack of appreciation for the bravery...
Re-Entry Anxiety After Lockdown
Most of us over the past year have been unhappy with living a life in lockdown, wondering when we can mingle socially with others. Finally, with vaccines rolling out and most herd immunity developing, society is beginning to open back up. For many, it may be a...
Signs of Addiction
How to Identify When a Behaviour is Becoming Problematic: Signs of Addiction When we speak about addiction, we tend to think of drugs and alcohol. However, many seemingly benign activities can become an addiction for some people. For some, watching porn is an activity...
How to Help Someone Who is Grieving
We can often fail to reach out to a loved one in grief out of shyness or uncertainty. Often, we worry that we don't have the words or know what we can do to help. It is often easier to offer a virtual hug or send a text instead of picking up the phone or talking face...
Can Counselling Help your Relationship?
If you and your significant other are experiencing difficulties, here are some reasons why you should give relationship counselling a try. Identifying patterns and cycles One of the most significant benefits of seeking counselling for relationships is having help...
What is Racial Trauma?
Racial trauma, sometimes referred to as race-based traumatic stress (RBTS), refers to mental and emotional stress resulting from racial bias, discrimination, microaggressions, and hate crimes. Individuals who experience racial trauma deal with the pain of the initial...
Mental Health Habits for 2021
Society seems obsessed with physical health and weight loss. We join gyms, take supplements, all to optimise our physical health. However, most people don't give their mental health a second thought. No matter how good you look on the outside or how low your...
Healthy Food and Emotional Regulation
Do you ever find yourself being an emotional eater? When you're feeling stressed or upset, do you find yourself reaching for the crisps and biscuits? If so, you're not alone. Most of us deal with the challenges of life by turning to comfort foods. The problem is that...
When Intimacy is Hard
When we desire to be in a relationship, we are not wanting or needing company only. Most of us are looking to find intimacy in life. But what is intimacy? Intimacy is not the same thing as sex. You can have sex without intimacy. Intimacy is authentic and genuine...
Staying Healthy While Working from Home
For many, working from home is a routine. But for others, working from home is an entirely new phenomenon brought about by the global pandemic. Working from home has completely changed many individuals' day-to-day lives, and mental and physical health can take a toll...
Why Compliments Don’t Necessarily Boost Self-Esteem
When a loved one doesn't take a compliment, it very hard to know what to say. Those who suffer from low self-esteem have rigidly strong beliefs about themselves. For example, you know that your partner deserved that promotion they worked so hard to achieve. However,...
Five Tips for Dealing with an Adult Bully
Bullies portrayed in movies, and television often gets their comeuppance, with a happy ending and maybe even a lesson learnt. However, in real life, it is rarely straightforward. You are not alone, dealing with a bully as an adult. Dealing with such a person as an...
Three types of Sex – Which Are You Having?
Sex is a part of our relationship life. We have our individually unique understanding and relationship to our sexuality. But what do we understand about sex? Not the mechanisms of it, but the why of it. What makes us want to engage in the sexual part of ourselves? And...
Drug Abuse in Men: Reasons, Stigma and Treatment
Statistics suggest that men tend to suffer addiction at a much higher rate than women. Why this difference? One explanation might be that men partake in riskier behaviours. Men tend to be more likely to experiment with illicit drugs and drink more. Men often self...
Recovery From Infidelity
In my time as a relationship counsellor, there is probably one statement I have heard more than any other around healing from an affair: "I do not think I can ever get over this" The most second most common phrase I hear is: "I do not think I can ever trust again" The...