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What to Expect in a First Session of Couples Counselling
This week's blog is an exploration to hopefully demystify of some of the things we will talk about during the first session of couples counselling using Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy. Exploring the Emotional Signals That We Send or Our Negative Cycle My goal for...
Five Techniques To Quickly Calm Your Anxiety
When living with anxiety, any moment can become one that creates a slow rising feeling of panic. Life feels normal one second, and then the next, chest tightens, and heart began to race. Hyper-focus on events in the future seems to dominate thinking, and you find...
Getting the Most Out of Couples Therapy
As a couples counsellor, I often have a front-row seat to relationship change. However, it takes two people wanting to work together to find a way through and then putting in the effort to make this happen. I have seen couples go from starting to sign divorce papers...
Ways to Overcome Unhealthy Dependence in Your Relationship
Do you find you accept responsibility for loved one's emotions or actions? Are you always trying to please others? Do you neglect your own needs and have difficulty setting realistic personal boundaries? Do you often feel resentful yet have trouble stepping away from...
What to Expect in Emotionally Focused Therapy for Couples
Emotionally Focused Therapy for Couples (EFT): What To Expect Starting couple therapy is a nerve-wracking experience for most. Often I find that my clients expect that sessions will be arguing matches, or they feared that I, as the therapist, would choose sides and...
Grieving For The First Time
When Will I Start Feeling Better? Thoughts Around Grieving For The First Time One of the most devastatingly painful experiences we can go through is grieving the loss of a loved one. Although we know that we will all die, no amount of information can prepare us for...
Ways to Overcome Unhealthy Dependence in Your Relationship
Do you find you accept responsibility for loved one's emotions or actions? Are you always trying to please others? Do you neglect your own needs and have difficulty setting realistic personal boundaries? Do you often feel resentful yet have trouble stepping away from...
Anger: Is it Different from Other Emotions?
Anger is perhaps the emotion that we find the most difficult to live with. That is most likely because anger has marked differences from other emotions. It is our fight mechanism which is essential for our survival, but it can have such damaging effects on our...
Relationships and Depression.
Being close to a loved one who is suffering from depression is incredibly difficult. All we want to do is help. When it becomes clear that you can't take the pain away, it is easy to become frustrated. Try to keep in mind that your loved one is dealing with an illness...
Healing from Childhood Emotional Neglect.
Many of us as kids were told explicitly or implicitly that we should be seen and not heard. While the purpose of this statement may have been to keep the household volume down, it could also have had negative ramifications. Worse still, many children suffer from...
Post-Baby Disconnect?
Three Ways to Stay More Connected After Having a Baby. Few new parents find themselves prepared for the life-changing event of having a child. The activities you both enjoyed together as a couple are replaced with sleepless nights and endless nappy changes. Many...
Co-Parenting Strategies for Divorced Parents
Experiencing a divorce or separation can create a lot of anger and bad blood between two people who were once best friends. It may feel like everything is falling apart. Trying to co-parent when you're struggling to keep going can be overwhelming. Learning to...
Why Intimacy May Support Longevity
As the saying goes, an apple a day might keep the doctor away, but regular physical intimacy works could be important too. Research suggests that regular sex can support longevity. However, many myths indicate otherwise. In many cultures, ejaculation was seen as a...
How Emotions Enter Dreams and Impact Our Health And Relationships
Society seems to condition us always need to appear calm and in full control of how we feel no matter the circumstances. Suppressing emotions may seem like an excellent way to prove that you are healthy and doing well, but hiding how you feel can have a detrimental...
It is Ok To Grieve After A Miscarriage
Grief After a Miscarriage Throughout our lives, we experienced the loss of loved ones and friends. But there is no more significant loss than that of a child. The pain of such a loss is devastating. If you've experienced a miscarriage, you are most likely feeling...