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Staying Together After the Affair Part 2
The discovery of an affair is a devasting for everyone involved. Below are some thoughts to help you navigate this time. It is Essential That You End the Affair: It is just not possible to work on your relationship if there is a third party waiting in the wings for...
Staying Together After the Affair Part 1.
This can be the most painful time when you discover the person you trusted the most has betrayed you. Below are some thoughts to help you navigate this time. Constructive Expression of Your Feelings: All your feelings are valid, but abuse be it verbal, physcail or...
What is EMDR?
Eye Movement Desentisation and Reprocessing therapy or EMDR, is a set of standardised protocols that incorporate elements from many different treatment approaches, it has been researched extensively and proven effective for the treatment of trauma. Issues that EMDR is...
5 Ways to Reignite the Spark in Your Relationship
“The spark’ is a phrase that I hear a lot when it comes to romantic relationships. You might have felt ‘the spark’ at the beginning of your relationship, and as a result, the early days were exhilarating for you and your partner. However, like every other flame, ‘the...
“Who Takes the Lead?” Advice for Balancing the Power in Your Relationship
When it comes to relationships, it seems there is often a driving force behind the couple or one partner who appears always to have the upper hand. This partner is the one most often in control of the relationship. Taking the Lead However, what does it mean to have...
6 Great Ways to Deepen Your Relationship Bond
Love is a beautiful thing, and there’s nothing more amazing than feeling the bond you share with your partner get stronger. If you’re in a happy relationship, you can keep it that way by introducing a few new things into your relationship. Here are 6 evidence-based...
Understanding Emotion Focused Therapy (EFT) for Couples
For those who aren’t familiar with Emotionally-Focused Therapy, (EFT) this is a short introduction. This approach is central to the way I practice. Identifying your emotion (for example; I feel annoyed when you don’t take out the rubbish) is at the centre of the...
Are You Playing the Blame Game? Here’s Why You Need to Stop
Blame and game – two words that should never be joined together. The truth is, the blame game is no fun to play, and there are never any winners. Moreover, perhaps, the biggest loser of all is the one who is doing all the blaming. When we blame others, we lose our...
How to Fit Romance Back into Your Scheduled Sex Life
It is the natural course of things in any romantic relationship: as time passes, the excitement and butterflies give way to routine. You begin to feel like you know what to expect from your partner, and you have heard all their stories. While your love for your...
Swiping Left: Tips on Dealing with Unwanted Romantic Attention Online
Many of us are all too familiar with this uncomfortable scenario: someone initially catches your eye, but for one reason or another, you lose interest. After letting them know you’ve changed your mind and are no longer interested, they keep messaging you....
The Mental Impact of Casual Sex: Navigating Pleasure and Pitfalls
Exploring the Psychological Dynamics of Casual Sexual Encounters in Modern Culture Dabble in a one-night rendezvous, embrace a hookup, or opt for the familiar "friends with benefits" arrangement—casual sex has become a prevalent facet of contemporary relationships....
Starting Over: Dating After the Death of a Significant Other
Whether it’s expected or sudden, losing a partner is always a devastating heartbreak. The finality of the loss of the love of your life and the idea that you will move forward in the world without them by your side might be one of the most difficult challenges you...
4 Ways a Healthy Sex Life Supports Good Mental Health
Every person has essential human needs. When we don’t get those needs met, our mental and sometimes physical health can suffer as a result, when we think of fundamental human needs, food, shelter, and water come to mind. However, healthy sex life is also a critical...
Deciphering Tics and Tourette’s: Understanding the Differences and Treatment Options
Navigating the Complexities of Tic Disorders and Tourette Syndrome Many individuals often conflate a tic disorder with Tourette syndrome. Despite their association with Obsessive Compulsive Disorder (OCD) and the potential impact of OCD treatment on tic and Tourette's...
Rupture and Repair in our Intimate Relationships
Have you ever wondered why some relationships last decades while others barely go two years? Why do some couples thrive and grow together while others crash and burn? The secret? There are three secrets, actually; three ingredients to many long term relationships....