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How to Fit Romance Back into Your Scheduled Sex Life


It is the natural course of things in any romantic relationship: as time passes, the excitement and butterflies give way to routine. You begin to feel like you know what to expect from your partner, and you have heard all their stories. While your love for your partner has grown and matured along with your relationship, it is not uncommon for what was once a fiery passion to have fizzled out over the years.

All areas of relationships take work, and romance in your relationship is no exception. If you’re looking for ways to start the fire of passion with your significant other, below are some tips that can help.

Listen More

It is always more difficult to hear than to be heard. You might feel like you know everything there is to know about your partner, but people change. Make an effort to ask more questions, and listen to your partner’s responses with interest. Ask them how their day was, probe them about their interests, and talk to them as you would if you were getting to know someone new.

Try New Activities Together

No matter how long you have been with your partner, there are bound to be things you have wanted to do together that you have not got round to. Alternatively, perhaps there are things you would love to try that you never thought of before. Whether it is joining a hiking group, visiting a new eatery or exploring your sexual fantasies, enjoying new and different activities together is sure to help bring back the spark that may feel like it is missing from your relationship.

Revisit the Past

Take a weekend trip to your secret spot, revisit the place where you had your first date, where you got engaged, your old stomping grounds. Visiting familiar places when you were getting to know each other will help remind you both of the hows and the whys of your love story.

Keep in mind that relationships are never perfect and that it is natural to have ups and downs with your partner. If you’re going through a difficult time know that things can improve. With love, trust and hard work you can get your relationship with your partner back on the upswing.

Are you and your partner struggling in your relationship? I specialise in working with couples and can help you both improve your relationship. Call my office today so we can schedule a time to talk.

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