What is Anxious Attachment?

What is Anxious Attachment?

The foundations of the model (EFT: Emotionally Focused Therapy) I use in my work is based on attachment theory. So let’s start by exploring a bit about attachment. Psychologists John Bowlby and Mary Ainsworth first developed attachment theory in the 1950s and 1960s....
The Power of Vulnerability

The Power of Vulnerability

Dr Sue Johnson, the developer and creator of Emotionally Focused Therapy or EFT (the approach I use in my work), describes what happens when couples get stuck in negative and reactive communication: “In insecure, distressed relationships, we disguise our...
What is Emotional Incest?

What is Emotional Incest?

Many of us experienced dysfunctional households growing up, where boundaries between parents and adults were blurred in unhealthy ways. Emotional incest is not sexual, but it does describe harmful and neglectful emotional interactions that are psychologically...
The Difficulty of Perfectionism

The Difficulty of Perfectionism

Society seems to place values on things that appear perfect. However, as human beings, it is not possible to reach a state of perfection. We will always be a work in progress as we are constantly changing. Perfection indicates a finality – a finished product – but we...
How to Deal With Social Anxiety After Covid

How to Deal With Social Anxiety After Covid

It has been a very long year since we first found out that we were in a pandemic. Lockdowns and social distancing have had a profound impact on all of us. But thankfully, life is beginning to open back up slowly; we are beginning to return to pre-pandemic life. Many...

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