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Couples Counselling: How to Regulate During Difficult Conversations During difficult conversations, it's common for us to become triggered by something our partner has said. We can feel calm one moment, but the next, we are thrown into "fight or flight" mode, our...
Understanding the Impact of Emotional Abuse: A Guide to Healing
Unveiling the Hidden Scars of Emotional Abuse Emotional abuse isn't always as conspicuous as physical abuse, yet its repercussions can be equally devastating. Tactics such as gaslighting, shaming, and manipulation can leave individuals feeling bewildered, powerless,...
Navigating Dating and Neurodiversity
Dating can be intimidating for anyone, but for those who are neurodivergent, it can bring additional challenges that might feel overwhelming. Many of my neurodivergent clients have shared that the thought of dating causes feelings of anxiety, particularly when it...
The Importance of Maintaining Independence in a RelationshipFinding Yourself in Relationship
When we first fall in love, spending all our time with our partner feels natural. We are drawn to each other, and being together brings us happiness. This initial phase, often described as infatuation, is a wonderful feeling. However, for a relationship to endure and...
How Do We Keep The Spark Alive?
When you build a fire, whether to warm your home or add ambience on a cold winter night, it is vital to tend the fire to keep it going. Relationships are the same. Beginning with that initial spark, we need to tend to it to keep the heat. Many couples are ready to...
When is it time to ask for help?
Depression and anxiety are complex and vary widely between individuals. Therefore, recognising situational discomfort that will shift through time and something more serious requiring professional support can be challenging. To get the measure of a mental health...
Five Tips To Support Your Relationship During Holidays Times
The holidays shouldn't be a demanding time, but often they are. Below are some tips to help support you. Take the pressure off yourself. We're bombarded with images of the 'perfect' gathering. We can feel this is what we are expected to achieve – but it's essential to...
I have been betrayed, should I stay or go?
Betrayal brings unbearable pain, but research shows a relationship can heal. Affairs can teach us a lot about our relationships and who we are. They offer a unique peek into our experiences, coping mechanisms and belief systems. An affair does not need to mean a...
Introducing Neurodiversity
When we speak about human behaviour or ways of being in the world, we have traditionally described someone as having normal or abnormal behaviour. But, recently, specialists have begun to look at things in a broader, more inclusive way. What Does Neurodivergent Mean?...
Stress and the Body
The saying goes, "Into every life, a little rain must fall." Stress is like rain. A little of it can be a good thing. But too much can cause havoc and devastation. Our bodies are designed to handle a little bit of acute or sudden stress. But when stress is prolonged...
But We Are Just Friends: Emotional Affairs Explained
Sex is not the only form of intimacy humans share—a long-term relationship experiences many types of meaningful connections. However, intimate behaviours are understood to remain exclusive within the primary relationship. If the sanctity of that connection is...
What is a Couples Counselling Intensive?
Over the years, more of my clients started to ask for longer, more frequent sessions. So, I developed a one to three-day-long program to meet the need for more intensive ways of working. The Couples Counselling Intensive was born. Maybe you feel stuck in a repeated...
What is a Secure Attachment?
Within families where parents can be attentive and responsive, children learn that they are valued and loved. Children are taught that it is good to pay attention to their emotions, they are encouraged to express themselves, and caregivers offer a sensitive, in-tune,...
What is Fearful-Avoidant Attachment?
Fearful-avoidance attachment style means feeling both an anxious need for another and an urge to avoid intimacy, resulting in what seems to be irrational behaviour towards those we love the most. Relationships can be characterised by a painful spiral of approaching...
What is Avoidant Attachment?
Roughly 25% of us relate in what is known as an avoidant attachment style. According to attachment theory (for more on this, please see previous post: What is Anxious Attachment?), we all need to feel accepted, loved and cared for, and it is as vital as food and...