News of pregnancy can come with conflicting emotions. For many, there is joy. However, often the euphoria is also usually mixed with worry. Unfortunately, this worry is genuine for many, as one in four pregnancies ends in miscarriage.
Although miscarriages are common, it doesn’t make dealing with the grief and sadness around this loss easier for anyone involved. So how can we support those close to us who have been through such a loss?
Understand the Full Picture
Most miscarriages happen in the first 12 weeks of pregnancy. This tremendous loss is much more than an end to an embryo. It is the death of a son or daughter.
Many women feel guilty after a miscarriage. They assume they have done something wrong. Medical professionals often can not give us clear answers as to why miscarriages happen. A woman may take excellent care of her health and herself during pregnancy and still experience a miscarriage. It is essential to reassure her that she has done nothing wrong. It is equally important to let her know that it is important to grieve.
Remember the Partner
The parent-to-be, for obvious reasons, often get support after a miscarriage. But partners are hurting too. They have been hit with the initial loss, but they must also summon extra strength and keep things together while their partner grieves.
If you or a loved one has suffered a miscarriage and would like to speak to someone about your loss and its impact on your relationship, please reach out to me. I would be pleased to discuss how I may help. I am seeing my clients in person in Hove or globally online.