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Should You Date If You Have Depression


Dating is challenging for everyone. However, when you suffer from depression, dating can feel scary and overwhelming. Not only do you feel particularly raw and vulnerable to possible rejection, but should a connection be made, you have the added burden of figuring out how and when to tell the person about depression.

Should people with depression date? If the person feels emotionally strong enough, then yes, of course, they should date. The real question is, how should they date? If you are suffering from depression and are interested in dating, here are some things to consider when meeting new potential partners:

Take Things Slow

There is no need to open up to someone on a first date and let them know that you suffer from depression. You’ll want to invest a little bit of time to see if this person is someone you think you could get serious with.

If after a few dates, you think he or she could be someone you’d like to go deeper with, then feel free to test the waters on the topic of depression. Please don’t feel you have to get into nitty-gritty details; tell them that you live with depression and see how they react.

Be Honest

Your potential partner may have follow-up questions immediately, or they may think about things for a while and then bring up some questions later. Whenever they do, be honest with your answers.

It will be tempting to want to downplay things to put your best self forward. But not being honest about your symptoms and reality will backfire eventually. Let them know you have good days and bad, and if you are currently taking medications and seeing a therapist. Answer as many questions as you feel comfortable with, but when you do, be sure, to be honest, and not pretend you are someone you’re not.

Learn from Your Past

Everyone has dating pitfalls and patterns, and people with depression are no different. It’s essential that you respect past dating failures so you can prevent them from happening again. For instance, did you tend to date people who made you feel bad about yourself? If you find you’re doing it again, call things off and take some time to regroup.

Get Help

Seeking help from a therapist can help you work out any issues you have that are hindering your relationships. If you notice you keep repeating past mistakes, try and talk with someone who can help you navigate your behaviour.

If you or a loved one suffers from depression, I’d be more than happy to discuss how I may be able to help.

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