Making the decision to go to couples counselling
For better or for worse, those words seem easy to say at the time, but when worse gets bad, many couples are ready to throw in the towel. This is often because they didn’t seek help in time and let things get out of hand.
The Stigma Of Counselling
It can be hard to decide to go to couples counselling because it means you have to face your problems and admit you and your partner are on shaky ground. It is not dissimilar to thinking something may be wrong with your health, but you’re too scared to face the music, and so you ignore the issue until it gets way too big.
Beyond having to admit you and your partner have problems, there is also the uncomfortableness of not being familiar with therapy. It can feel a bit mysterious and scary, sitting down with a total stranger and sharing personal information about your relationship.
For these reasons, far too many couples let their marriage issues sit on the back burner, percolating. But the better option is to nip a problem in the bud as soon as it raises its ugly head.
To save you some confusion, here are some of the most common relationship issues that typically require some time in couples counselling.
Broken Trust
Whenever there is a significant breach of trust, as in an extramarital affair, there is usually a need for couples counselling. A therapist can help you both rebuild up the foundation of trust.
More Frequent Arguments
To each relationship, a little rain must fall. But when you start having frequent torrential downpours, it’s time to ask for help. An increase in fighting often means significant problems under the surface.
You’ve Experienced A Devastating Event.
Life throws us challenging events in our lives that are hard to come back from. Whether it is a financial loss or the loss of a loved one, such change can drastically alter the way, you and your partner relate to one another.
These are just a few of the reasons partners should consider exploring couples counselling. It is always better to seek help than try and go it alone.
If you are interested in couples counselling, please be in touch with me. I’d be happy to discuss how I may be able to help.
