Is your partner a Narcissist?
When you met your partner, did it seem like love at first sight? Was there a familiarity to them and a feeling that you were somehow drawn to them? Soon after you committed to them, did they begin to change? Were they giving you less attention and making everything about them? Did they show fits of rage or suddenly start giving you the silent treatment?
If any (or most) of this sounds familiar, there is a good chance you are with a narcissist. Still not sure? Here are some common warning signs:
For narcissists, it is all about THEM. Your partner may expect you to meet their needs 24/7 while your own are on the back burner. If you find you give and they take ALL of the time, you may be ina relationship with a narcissist.
They talk a good game, but narcissists have low self-esteem. This also makes it very easy for them to become jealous – VERY jealous. And not just about anyone interested in you romantically, but ANYONE who can take the focus off of them, including children, pets and other friends and family members. Often this jealously triggers intense rage.
Narcissists all have the same power play, and that is to project their behaviour onto others. You see politicians do this all of the time. Your partner may say that you are needy or have anger issues, and in your head, you may be thinking, “Wow, you are so describing YOU right now”. Yes, they are – they are projecting.
No (Or Fake) Apologies
Narcissists struggle with empathy. That is, they often cannot look at something from another person’s perspective. You may be hurting or having a bad day, but your partner seems completely uninterested. They ARE uninterested.
No empathy also makes it hard for then to take any responsibility for their behaviours and actions. But they have enough awareness to know they should at least make it LOOK as if they care so that they will throw you a hollow apology every so often.
Narcissistic abuse is very real, and if you find yourself in this type of relationship, you most likely feel exhausted and shell-shocked, lacking in confidence and self-worth. If you would like loke to talk to someone about this, please get in touch with me.