If you and your significant other are experiencing difficulties, here are some reasons why you should give relationship counselling a try.
Identifying patterns and cycles
One of the most significant benefits of seeking counselling for relationships is having help seeing negative cycles that we can get hijacked.
Healing can begin, and intimacy can be established once patterns have been recognised, shared and understood.
An impartial presence
A counsellor is not like a friend or family member who may take sides and hand out potentially harmful advice.
Relationship counselling is a safe place to deal with all sorts of issues that arise in our relationships.
The purpose of relationship counselling is to uncover and understand what is going on in the relationship dynamic so that we can have a different conversation about why people are coping in the ways they are coping.
A safe space
Relationship counselling offers both partners a safe space to be completely open and honest about their experience when the relationship is not working.
Honesty can have detrimental effects, and sharing vulnerability can feel unsafe if not held. Relationship counselling offers a safe environment in which no one is ever judged, and everybody is helped to explore their experience and hear the experience of the other.
A place to rebuild trust
Trust is the bedrock of every relationship. But when that trust is broken, it is hard to put the pieces back together. Relationship counselling explores different ways to rebuild trust one step at a time.
Bringing out difficult emotions
Did you know that trapped suppressed emotions are one of the main contributors to relationships breaking down?
When you have deep feelings of anger, sadness, despair, or hopelessness, they fester and can come out sideways, making matters worse.
Counselling offers the space and the opportunity to let these emotions out in healthy, respectful ways that your partner can hear and understand. It is then possible to cultivate empathy.
If your relationship is in a tough place right now, please contact me. I would be pleased to talk with both of you about Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) and how it can help support your relationship and strengthen your bond. I am seeing my clients online and in my office in Hove.
