Disagreements are a natural part of human interaction. Over time, we’ve come to accept that sometimes we must respectfully disagree and move on. However, in today’s divided society, it has become increasingly difficult to simply agree to disagree.
Television and social media amplify the strain political disagreements place on relationships with family, friends, and colleagues. This magnification of division makes it seem almost impossible to have a civil conversation with someone who holds a different opinion. Disputes with loved ones can cause significant issues, and arguments with a boss or co-worker could jeopardise your job. If you find yourself in a heated exchange and need to diffuse it quickly, here are some respectful ways to end that awkward conversation.
Listen
During arguments, we often focus on being heard rather than listening. To end an argument respectfully, stay quiet and let the other person vent without interruption. You might feel the urge to defend yourself or your viewpoint, but allowing them to have the last word can often help end the conversation on a positive note.
Ask Questions
Use your natural curiosity to ask questions of the person you are disagreeing with. Do so without condescension or sarcasm but with genuine interest. Even if you already know the answer (or don’t care to hear it), asking questions can diffuse the argument by allowing the other person to share their perspective. You can then end the conversation by saying something like, “That’s an interesting perspective; I never thought about it that way.”
Find Common Ground
To end an argument on a positive note, steer the conversation towards points of agreement. It’s easier to conclude the discussion positively when focusing on shared views. If the other person tries to return to the contentious issue, gently change the subject to something more agreeable or let them speak, then say, “I can respect that.”
Remember the Golden Rule
The adage, “Do unto others as you would have them do unto you,” is timeless for a reason. Treating others as you wish to be treated is a fundamental principle of life. When you strongly disagree with someone, it can be challenging to treat them with kindness. However, developing empathy for others cultivates patience, a quality that will benefit you throughout your life.
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