As summer approaches, many of us are tidying up our gardens and patios in preparation for family barbecues and holiday gatherings. Summer often feels like a season for unwinding and enjoying quality time with loved ones.
But for those grieving the loss of someone close, these gatherings can be especially difficult. Balancing the desire to be with loved ones against the deep sadness of loss can feel overwhelming.
If you’re wondering how to navigate grief in the coming months, here are some suggestions that may help:
Allow Yourself to Feel
Grieving is a natural and necessary process. Suppressing your feelings won’t make them go away and may even prolong the pain. While it might be tempting to avoid all social events to shield yourself, consider seeking support to help you confront your emotions.
Be Selective
You don’t need to attend every summer event or family gathering. Choose the ones you feel comfortable with and decline those you’re not ready for. It’s important to set boundaries, even if well-meaning friends and family try to persuade you otherwise. Only you know what feels manageable for you.
Plan an Exit Strategy
Make sure you have a way to leave an event if you need to. Driving yourself ensures you can leave at any time, or you can arrange a lift with someone who understands your situation. Having local taxi numbers or a rideshare app at the ready can also provide flexibility and reassurance.
Celebrate Their Memory
Finding ways to honour your loved one during the summer holidays can bring comfort. You might prepare their favourite recipe to share at a gathering or organise a special tribute, such as releasing a lantern or planting a flower in their memory. These acts can help you feel connected to them while creating new traditions.
Seek Support
If the summer months feel particularly challenging, speaking with a counsellor can provide valuable tools and guidance to help you process your grief.
If you’d like to explore support options, please don’t hesitate to get in touch.
